How to increase your chances of living a longer, healthier life?

Living your longest, healthiest life involves taking care of your physical, mental, and emotional health throughout your life. Here are some tips to help you achieve this goal:

1. Eat a balanced diet that includes plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean protein, and healthy fats.
2. Exercise regularly, aiming for at least 30 minutes of moderate-intensity physical activity most days of the week.
3. Get enough sleep, aiming for seven to eight hours of sleep each night.
4. Manage stress through techniques such as meditation, deep breathing, or yoga.
5. Stay connected with friends and family, and engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
6. Avoid smoking and limit your alcohol intake.
7. Stay up to date with recommended health screenings and check-ups, such as mammograms, colonoscopies, and blood pressure checks.
8. Protect your skin from the sun by wearing protective clothing, using sunscreen, and avoiding tanning beds.
9. Practice safe sex and get tested for sexually transmitted infections.
10. Stay mentally engaged by challenging yourself with new activities, learning new skills, and staying socially active.

By incorporating these tips into your daily life, you can increase your chances of living a longer, healthier life. It's important to remember that small changes can make a big difference, so start with one or two changes and gradually add more as you become more comfortable with your new habits.

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It does not matter if you are a Doctor, a Lawyer or an infantry soldier in the Army if you want to be the best and get ahead, you will need to take risks.

A doctor may have to take risks when working with a patient. The Doctor may have to experiment with different forms of medications or new surgical procedures when all else has failed in an attempt to help the patient.

A lawyer may have to argue a case in an unorthodox manner to win the case, but if the lawyer wants to become the top lawyer and make millions of dollars fighting high profile cases lots of risks have to be taken.

A soldier may have to take a risk and run thru gunfire to save another injured soldier, to complete their mission, or just to secure an area from being overrun by enemy troops, after going days with little to no sleep, but if a soldier wants to get promotions and eventually lead men into battle they also need to take risks.

These risks are not unlike someone looking to get rich in a casino, they have to be willing to risk everything they have to get that million dollar payoff. If you play it safe in a casino you may get lucky and win a big jackpot on the slot machines, but if you want to make millions you are going to have to play games such as Poker, Blackjack, Roulette and Craps. These are the games that with some skill, some luck and a lot of risk taking you can retire off your winnings.

The same can be said about life in general. No one gets ahead in life from playing it safe. You will not meet your special someone if you are too afraid to risk getting rejected by someone, you will never get that big promotion unless you take risks at your job.

It is very important to continue to take risks in life. To stop taking risks means to stand still in life. Standing still in life is one of the main causes of depression. These are usually the people afraid to confront the boss and tell him that they demand a raise; they are the ones that allow life to pass them by out of fear. The entire purpose of fear is to stop you from taking a risk.

Fear is nothing more then the unknown. If you have always wanted to quit your job and open a shop but you are too afraid to do it, this is because you are afraid of failing and risking what you already have.

It is important to learn to take risks in life if you want to be happy, you may not always get the things you risked for, but you will know that you tried, and in the end it does not matter in my opinion if you succeed or not it is how many risks you try to make that is the real test of how successful you are.

Just remember if no one took risks we would be a world without flight and probably no automotive vehicles at all, maybe we would have no electricity. So risk truly is needed to improve the world.

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Living in today's metropolitan world of cellular phones, mobile computers and other high-tech gadgets is not just hectic but very impersonal. We make money and then invest our time and effort in making more money. Does it end? Not usually because we are never satisfied. How many times have we convinced ourselves that if only we had some more money, life would be so sweet? But then, after receiving a substantial raise, we realize that it wasn't enough and that we need more?

What Should You Do?

I have read many books on life such as Robin Sharma's Monk says this and the monk says that, and they all seem to say that money is not necessary. But it is. Can you do without cash and a lot of it? I know I can't. 

So, I went to the neighborhood Rabbi and asked for advice that will help me find my true way in life. 

The rabbi nodded and took me to the window. "What do you see?" he asked me.

Promptly, I answered, "I can see people walking to and fro and a blind man is begging for alms at the left corner."

The Rabbi nodded and guided me to a big mirror. "Now look and tell me what you see?"

"I can see myself," I man answered.

The Rabbi smiled. "Now you can't see anyone else. The mirror and the window are both created from the same raw material: glass, but because on one of them they have applied a thin layer of silver, when you look at it all you can see is your own reflection."

The Rabbi placed his arm on my shoulders. "Compare yourself to those two pieces of glass. Without the silver layer, you saw the other people and felt compassion for them. When you are covered with silver, you see only yourself."

I looked at the Rabbi and stared. "I don't understand."

The Rabbi continued. "You will become someone only if have the courage to remove the silver covering over your eyes in order to again see and love others." He patted me on my back and sent me on my way.

I have thought of what he said and come to the conclusion that he had a point. Yes. We need money and we should not aim to lead a moneyless existence; its pointless and will only cause us and our families many heartbreaks in the future.

Instead, I suggest that we should follow the advice the Rabbi gave me. When we approach life through a silver covering, all we are able to see is ourselves. But discard that covering, and you will be able to see and feel everyone else. 

Conclusion:

In life, we are allowed to and should be able to look at both kinds of mirrors, but we should remember that a mirror reflects only us; a window is the door to compassion, health and true wealth. In other words, seek wealth by all means, but don't let it dissuade you from life, people, children and the poor and needy.

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When my friend sensed that in a few weeks the light of life was about to be extinguished, and that there was no more hope for him, he called me to his side and said, "If only I had lived my life differently, I might not have felt such an emptiness now. Promise me," he caught my hand, "Promise me that you won't make the same mistake." And when I asked him what mistakes, he asked me to get a pen and paper and to jot down his last words. Here they are in condensed form:

1) Talk less; listen more.

2) Listen to your grandfather's stories about his youth. When he's gone, you will relive the bond through these memories.

3) Invite friend over for a snack or dinner even if the house is a mess.

4) Eat popcorn in the living room even though its messy.

5) Invite the friends who have children home. Don't worry about their children creating a mess.

6) Sit on the grass even though it dirties your pants.

7) Never buy something just because it lasts for a long time or because it is practical.

8) Stay in bed and at home when sick and stop pretending that the world cannot go one without me for a day.

9) Light up the wonderfully crafted candles and let them burn out. Better this than they accumulate dust in the closet.

10) Share life's responsibilities with a partner, not only expenses.

11) (Meant for Women) Instead of waiting for the pregnancy to get over, cherish each moment in your heart. Understand that the life in you is the only chance you will get to help god create magic.

12) Let your children hug and kiss you whenever they wish to. Don't stop them by saying things like: later, go wash your hands first, we have to eat dinner.

13) Say the following two phrases as often as possible: "I love you" and "I am sorry."

14) Stop worrying about who loves or and who doesn't or about what others have or don't have.

15) Cherish all personal human relations.

16) Play with a pet every day. Laugh and run with it and take part in all its antics.

17) Spend more time with the people who love you.

18) Stop sweating because of all the small details and problems of life.

19) Grab every moment, look at it and live it. That moment will never return again.

Her name was Susan, and she had one six year old daughter. Susan taught me these few basic ideals that I have tried to follow in honour of her memory. It has made me a better man, a much nicer husband and in general, a happier person. Even now I can hear her say that God has blessed each and every one of us, and that we should accept these blessings and strive to become stronger both physically, mentally and also emotionally. I will always remember what she said to me the last time we met: "Jack, you are lucky. Don't blow it."

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Anticipatory grief is the name given to the mix of emotions experienced when we are living in expectation of loss and grieving because of it. Anticipatory Grief is particularly relevant to those who have received a terminal diagnosis and for those who love and care for them.

Terminal diagnosis changes the very structure of our existence, takes away our control and our ability to hope and plan for the future. When someone we love is given a terminal illness, we become painfully aware of the fragility of life and may even fear for our own mortality.

Living in expectation of death, causes us to experience many of the symptoms and emotions of the grief suffered when a loved one has actually died, including; shock, anger, denial, physical and emotional pain, helplessness and sorrow. Depression is common and changes in eating, sleeping and bowel habits may also occur.

Prognosis increases our turmoil; it is inevitable that we begin counting down the days to the estimated time of demise and see the dawn of each day as bringing us closer to it. Some may feel a sense of surreal ness and an inability to fit back into the pattern of life prior to diagnosis, this often intensified by the reaction of friends and acquaintances, who may be dealing with their own shock and dismay at the news and not knowing what to do or say, avoid us.

It may be some time before we can truly accept that our loved one is dying and during this time we may experience alternate periods of acceptance and denial. Often, necessity brings about acceptance for the Carer as they need to make decisions regarding the best options available for the care of their loved ones. The patient however, may choose not to accept the prognosis and it is important for the carer to recognise and support their need to live in hope of a cure. Hope is paramount to quality of life for their loved one and may even contribute to their longer survival.

Whether our grief is anticipatory or grief due to the death of a loved one, there is a very real need to talk to someone about the roller coaster of emotions we are experiencing. This however is not always easy to do, due to a number of reasons which may include; trying to remain strong for the patient, trying to remain strong for the children, trying to put on a brave face for other family members and friends.

Counselling, though readily available, is resisted by many, who believe that no one could possibly understand what they are feeling, nor do anything about the outcome. Speaking from my own experience of anticipatory grief due my husband’s terminal illness, I initially had these feelings and it was with some trepidation that I went to my first counselling session. Upon hearing my story, the counselling cried, further strengthening my opinion that she could not possibly help me. I was mistaken; after a few visits I began to see the benefit of these sessions and looked forward to seeing her each week. Here, for a short time at least, I could stop acting as if everything was okay – when nothing was okay, here I could take off my brave face and let my defences down.

The only trouble with counselling is that it may not always be available when you need it. I highly recommend keeping a personal diary for these occasions. During the two years of my husbands terminal illness, my diary was without a doubt, my strongest coping tool, I wrote in it daily, often in the form of poetry, pouring my anger, my fear and my heartache on to the pages. Periodically, I would read back through it and through this I came to know myself very well - later I could see my strength coming through.

Excerpts and poems from my diary now form a major part of my book “Lean on Me” Cancer through a Carer’s Eyes.

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One of the main problems that deter a person's success is their lack of concentration. Lapses encourage disturbances to get in the way and stall progress. If ones wishes to proceed on their road to success, it is imperative they learn how to concentrate. Here, we show you some easy to learn exercises that are easy to implement.

1) Silence or Noise:

Most people cannot concentrate when it is too noisy, but others work better with music or others in the midst of a crowded room. If you are not aware as yet what best suits you, then try out the different environments. How? Take a notepad and a pencil or pen with you and try and write down a letter in all the three circumstances in a set amount of time. Ten minutes. That is all you will need to determine where your source of concentration lies. How? Check not only for length but also for development as that is more important.

2) Focal Point:

Every morning, before you leave for work or on the way, stare at any object for ten minutes. You can do this while in the toilet, car or bus. You will find this difficult, but whatever happens, do not move your gaze away. Hold it. Wait. And then, as the minutes pass you will find yourself deeply meditating about things that happened to you yesterday or challenges you have to face in a few minutes. Congratulations. You have just conquered the art of meditation.

3) Deep Breathing:

In the beginning, you can do this while staring at the object from tip number two, but if you wish to move towards real concentration, do this separately. Sit down on the floor. If its hard, place a cushion. Close your eyes. Breathe. Count the number of inhales. When you have reached 100, start counting backwards but this time count the exhales. Mastering this will take you a while, but once you do move on to other kinds of mathematical calculations such as naming the months of the year from December backwards or alphabetically. After that, make up exercises as you like.

4) Movement:

Focus on an animal: cat, dog or even ant or bird. Follow their every movement as if they exist in a vacuum. Study every tiny spot on their body. The point of this is to learn how to diversify your concentration in such a way that movement does not deter you from your goal.

Conclusion:

Practice the above four tips and like magic, you will start enjoying life to its fullest because you will be able to focus on the things you want to focus on and disregard those that disrupt. Practice the above tips daily and you will be that much more closer to achieving your dreams and goals. Best of Luck!

Five Ways to Reduce Your Stress Levels

Stress happens when we are not relaxed, when our minds aren't settled. When there's too much to do, too many distractions, and too many problems. Many of you started your home-based business to avoid some of the stress of working for someone else, or to ease the stress of financial worries. 

But working at home can create it's own stressors. Isolation. Kid's noises and distractions - which always seem to happen when you're on an important phone call. Worrying about where the next client will come from, and if he'll come in time to meet your obligations. Procrastination - household chores that never end even though you know you should be at your desk. 

An overload of stress is bad for your body, your emotional health, and your business. You can't eliminate it completely, but there are ways to reduce your stress levels. 

1. Organize your time

Set a schedule based on your priorities and your goals. Yes, flexibility is one of the major reasons for working from home but it is still a good idea to have a basic time-use plan for your day. Decide how much time you need to spend each day on household tasks, family and children, and your business activities.

Break your day up into manageable blocks of time and write down which activity belongs when. This will help stop that nagging little guilt in the back of your mind when you think you should be doing something other than what you are doing. 

2. Get your family involved in your business and your plans

Let them know what has to be done and share your plans with them. Older children can help out - either with the household or maybe even with your business. Giving them tasks helps develop responsibility and pride in accomplishments.

Schedule business time for when smaller children are sleeping or otherwise occupied. You might even consider having someone help out by distracting or entertaining children during set times for your phone calls or other business activities when you need quiet. 

3. Develop a strong support network

Everyone occasionally needs someone to talk to. Join online or community networking groups. This can be an invaluable source not only of emotional support, but for tips and advice as well. Nothing helps more than talking with people who are or have been in the same situation that you are in.

Ask questions, give advice, or just vent. Thats what these groups are there for so take advantage of them. You can get great ideas on both family and business issues, and these networks also can sometimes be a good source of business leads. 

4. Create a soothing working environment

Even if your home office is a converted closet or a corner of the den find ways to separate it from the chaos of the household. This helps in two ways. First, it helps you remove yourself from the household distractions in the background, and second it allows you to emotionally change gears when you "leave" work.

If your living and working spaces aren't separate you'll often find yourself worrying about work during family time because you can see it if it's constantly in view. You'll think of one more memo to write, or the proposal that you didn't finish. And the same goes for work time - you can't concentrate and be productive when you're looking at a sink of dishes that need washing and laundry that needs folding. 

If you don't have an actual door to close on the office use a screen or shelves; something to create a sense of a physical barrier between home and work. Make your working space relaxing. Display a picture of a soothing scene or something funny so that you can take a mental mini-break when you need to.

Use warm inviting colors, or soft music in the background. Don't go overboard though. You don't want to create a space that puts you to sleep, just relaxing enough to keep your stress at manageable levels so you can do your best and most efficient work. 

5. Avoid procrastination

This is related to the first idea - scheduling your time. Often, stress is created by the pressure of knowing you haven't done what you planned to do or what you should have done. There's no need to beat yourself up - guilt is very stressful too.

And it will happen occasionally, but that's one of the best advantages of working for yourself. You have the flexibility and the freedom to get yourself back on track.

How to Stop Procrastination and Succeed in Your Home Based Business?

You started a Home Business with a lot of anticipation. You seem to be doing everything right but Procrastination seems to be getting hold of you and the progress you hoped to make in your Home Business appears to be eluding you. This scenario is not new and is encountered by quite a few new Home Business entrepreneurs.

They started hoping their path will be a bed of roses but when they find the going getting tough they tend to procrastinate.

Yes, what is Procrastination? The dictionary defines it as “deferring or postponing action” People who are afflicted by Procrastination know it themselves. Few make a genuine attempt to change but many don’t. They allow things to drag on or refuse to take the first positive step towards any solution.

Successful people seldom procrastinate. This is what propels them towards their goal and success in life. Even when they do procrastinate at times, they don’t allow procrastination to take hold of themselves.

How then can you stop procrastination and succeed in your Home Business

1. Set Realistic Goals.

Never undertake to do anything much more than what you can chew. If you attempt to do something that is beyond your capacity, the whole exercise might become overwhelming and prevent you from getting started. You then tend to procrastinate.

2. Prepare Lists.

It is always advantageous to prepare a list of the things you want to do. This will help you to achieve your goals and also help you to prioritize the tasks. A list with a short term objective and another with a long term objective. Break them again into smaller steps. The whole purpose of two lists is to motivate you to get started and to stop procrastination. A person with a tendency to procrastinate will never get started if he views a long list of tasks to be accomplished. On the other hand viewing a shorter list can encourage him to get started.

3. Always have a Deadline.

Deadlines always play a very important role when you plan to achieve some task. It has to be realistic and attainable. Unattainable deadlines can only cause frustration and develop a feeling of incompetence with respect to your ambition of operating a successful Home Business.

4. Get Started.

Once you have done all the preliminaries such as reading, planning, getting good advice etc. put your best foot forward and gets started. Perfection is not necessary. All your preparatory work will be of no avail if you hesitate or vacillate. This reminds me of a Chinese proverb: “He who deliberates fully before taking a step will spend his entire life on one leg.”

5. Read Success and Inspiring Stories.

Regular reading of the lives of successful men and women will inspire you to emulate them. Successful people seldom or never procrastinate and reading these stories will gradually wean you out of your tendency to procrastinate.

6. Reward Yourself.

Whenever you complete your task or achieve your minor goal, reward yourself. Take time out and enjoy the company of your friends or take your family out. This will give you a sense of joy, fulfillment and achievement and will motivate you further to be a successful Home Business entrepreneur.

Conclusion

Successful people no doubt deliberate fully before making a positive move but they don't procrastinate. They don’t hesitate to take the first step forward and that is what matters most. You too can stop Procrastination by following these methods and propel your Home Business to the top.

The Power of Believing to Grow Your Home Based Business

What does success mean to you? It means many things to different people. Since I don’t know you, I won’t try to tell you what it may mean to you. However, I will tell you this, every human being wants success. Whatever the meaning is to them, they want it. You and I are no exception.

The power of believing is not magic, nor is it some mystical power. The power of believing works like this, if you possess the “I am positive, I can” attitude, then you will generate the power, skill and energy needed to do. When you have the “I can”, the “how to” will develop.

Develop your power of believing. Think success, never think failure. Whether you are at work or at home, think, “I will succeed,” not “I’ll probably fail.” When an opportunity appears, think, “I can do this,” and never think, “there’s no way,” “I’ll never be able.” Think only that you can, and you will.

Remind yourself everyday that you are among the best. Believing in oneself is of utmost importance. Successful people are not super human; they do not possess super natural powers. They are simply ordinary folks that believe in themselves and what they do. Never sell yourself short.

You must believe big. The size of your belief is directly proportional to the size of your success. If you think pennies, you get pennies; think dollars and you get dollars. It’s just as easy to have big plans, dreams and beliefs and it is to have small ones.

If you will apply these thoughts, these principles and techniques, these beliefs, to your online or, home based business or whatever you do, and if you will apply the power of believing, then you can launch yourself to success.

How to Become a Prospector for Relationships?

What matters most in life to you? Money, Time, Friends, Family? All of those topics have 1 common denominator, Relationships! Relationships are the key to being successful and living life to the fullest. When you work on Relationships, the rest will follow.

What does that word mean to you? Does it have a deep emotional meaning and bring up feelings and memories of people who greatly touched your life? Or does it feel so far away and unattainable because you don't feel you have the skills or the desire to develop them?

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1. We are placed on this planet to connect with others not to be an island. If you are a runner, you understand the term "runner's high", that energy and euphoria you get from the endomorphins that pulse through your body at the end of a run. When you give your full attention and connect with another person, Enjoy your "relationship high".

2. Laugh at your mistakes. Instead of being so afraid of what others think of you, laugh, share, and realize that you have the choice to be embarrassed and angry, distant, however you react, or you can laugh! Instead of pushing someone away or scaring them, you invite them to laugh with you and give an opportunity to connect. Sharing and being vulnerable makes you more approachable and real.

3. Be polite ? Use your manners! This is a lost skill! Do you want to attract people to you or push them away? How do you feel when someone looks you in the eye and says, "Thank you" or "Please"?

Write thank you notes. Give encouragement and compliments, even when you have to search for them, make them honest and sincere.People don't care about what you have to say until they knowyou care about them.

4. Relationships are all about Listening!

• L = Look them in the eye
• I = Invest in people. Accept them for who they are.
• S = STOP doing whatever else you are doing and focus on the other person as you are with them.
• T = Think about what THEY are saying, not about how you are going to respond.
• E = Empathize with them. How would you feel? How do you want to be treated?
• N = Notice body language. Yours and theirs. Are your arms folded in front of you? Are you open to receive them or closed and fearful? Nothing feels so good as being understood!

5. Healthy Relationships build up, not tear down!

This may be painful, but think about it, do you put people down to make yourself look better? Now, take comfort because at some time in our lives we have all done it. The question is, will you continue or are you ready to make a change?

Find a positive and focus on it whether in yourself, or with the person you are with.

Give compliments and encouragement, don't wait for them to be given to you. Procrastination is a relationship robber.

So what are you going to do to begin building relationships today?

Choose one area and begin to build on it. You have to be a prospector for relationships, get out there and just "do it"!

How to Help Your Child Build Positive Self Esteem and Self Value?

It's often been said that children learn what they live.  So if you're looking for a place to start helping your child build positive self esteem and self value, then you should show them your positive sense of self and strong self esteem.  Be positive when you speak about yourself and highlight your strengths. This will teach your child that it's okay to be proud of their talents, skills and abilities.  

Your child also benefits greatly from honest and positive praise.  Find something about them to praise each day.  You could even give your child a task you know they can complete and then praise them for a job well done after they're finished. Show your child that positive acts merit positive praise.  

When your child's feeling sad, angry or depressed, communicate openly, honestly and patiently with them. Listen to them without judging or criticizing.  They may not fully understand why they feel the way they do, so the opportunity to communicate with you about it may be what's needed to help them sort through a difficult situation.  

Suggest positive behaviors and options as solutions, and make sure to leave that door of communication open so they know the next time they feel badly, they can come to you for help and know that you won't judge or punish them for how they're feeling. 

Teach your child the importance of setting goals and developing a plan to meet that goal and complete that task.  Small projects are the best to start off with in the beginning.  Ensure that it's an appropriate task for your child, and not too complex.  Don't only give praise at the end of the project, but praise their accomplishments during the project as well. 

Most importantly, tell your child "I love you" each and every day - many times throughout the day, in fact.  When they've behaved badly, remind yourself that it's not them you don't like, only their behavior.  Tuck short, sweet notes in their lunchboxes or coat pockets, or even send them a card in the mail.  Soon, they'll learn to say "I love you" just as easily and honestly in return.

How People Experience Bad Relationships With Their Family, Friends or Partners?

People experience having bad relationships with their friends, co-workers, family, and their partners. It is considered normal for them to fight once in a while, have misjudgments, and so on. But sometimes, things can get a little nasty whenever two people fight over the most simplest of things. Emotions can make or break a relationship, depending on how two people manage their connection to each other. Sometimes, troubled relationships can spiral down to an emotional breakdown, creating damage on each person's self confidence and self-esteem. 

Emotional abuse is based on power and control. Forms of rejection can take place, like refusing to acknowledge a person's presence, value, or worth. People can be rejected by communicating or telling him/her that he/she is useless and inferior, adding a devaluation of thoughts and feelings. He/she can be degraded by insults, ridicules, name calling, behavior that diminishes identity, dignity and self worth of that person. Inducing terror by intimidation, threatening, and extreme fear. Isolation can also be seen whenever there is emotional abuse. Confinement, restriction of normal contact with other people, and limiting freedom within a person's environment may be present when this situation arises.  

Many people are falling as victims of this kind of abuse. It starts with a simple tension among two people, eventually breaking down their communication in their relationship. After this, the verbal and emotional abuse takes place. This is where intimidation, anger, blame, threats, and arguing occurs. Of course, after any heated argument, the abuser apologizes, gives excuses, blames the victim, denies the abuse that just happened, or even says that the abuse was not as bad as the victim claim it to be. Then the incident is forgotten, as if there were no abuse that took place earlier. This cycle is to be repeated and sustained, and if not dealt with properly, may even get worse. 

A harsh aspect of emotional abuse would be brainwashing. The abuser keeps the victim unaware of what is going on and what changes are taking place in their environment. He or she may control  finances, make plans on their own, talk behind a person's back, or isolate the person from her friends or family. The abuser controls the person's time and physical environment, and works to suppress the person's behavior. He creates a sense of powerlessness over the victim, together with fear and dependency. 

In experiencing all these, the fallen victim can have sleep problems, and a hint of depression as well. The victim may feel severe anxiety, low self-esteem, fearfulness, aggression, extreme dependence, frequent crying, and even suicide attempts, among many others. Without knowing it, a person may already be in need of professional help. When dealing with this kind of controlled relationship, it is best to seek advice from those who are closest to the victim. The victim of emotional abuse may need to hear what others think about their present relationship, since that person needs emotional stability in order to function well as a person. Try talking to a family member or close friend when dealing with emotional abuse. It is best that these things are discussed with people who love the victim most, before it's too late.

Benefits of Developing a Positive Attitude When Building Your Business

“If you fail to prepare, you are preparing to fail”

Everyone thinking of starting a business needs to be prepared to move beyond conventional approaches. One of the most crucial factors in your business success is your ATTITUDE. Developing a positive attitude is your key to be able to reach your goals.

Your knowledge, your skills, your service or product quality, will not help you enough if you don’t have a positive attitude. Many people failed in their business and the major reason of their failures is due to inadequate attitude. This brings me to an old statement "Your Attitude determines your Altitude," pretty much says it all!

Before jumping into online battle, there are several things you will want to consider. What does starting a home Business involve? What should you expect? And, are you suited to this lifestyle? As with any employment decision, the proper time and research should be spent to make sure you're on the right track.

To make sure you are in the right way, you should own certain markers’ qualities that will help you on your path to success. Some of these qualities may be a part of your personality, but it is always worth making the effort to learn or improve upon skills that you need to use.

The main factor that affects everything in your life is your attitude.

What are attitudes?

Attitudes are internal characters of the heart and thoughts. They are the hidden intentions which will eventually serve as the basis for our actions.

Your attitude can affect everything you do in your life. Generally, if your attitude is bad and the desire just isn't there, you are burned out. If Your Attitude is bad you won't get very high. If your attitude is good, then your chances for success are great.

If you have a bad attitude the negativity will show in everything you do. No matter what you are doing, your results will be poor and your business will do poor. You CAN reach your goals, whatever they happen to be, if only you develope a positive attitude.

Developing a Positive Attitude

"Your attitude will determine your altitude."

If you have a bad attitude, you can change it if you WANT to. A bad attitude is immediately passed on to your customers and that's the quickest way to scare someone off. There are a lot of people who have great latent, but their attitude is the disqualifier of their life.

If you have a positive attitude and constantly strive to give your best effort, eventually you will overcome your immediate problems and find you are ready for greater challenges.

• Avoid spending time with negative people. Avoid spending time with people who make you anxious, or make you feel unhappy. These are the types of people that will drain your energy. A good thing for you to do instead is to hang out with great, positive people that suit your style. Their attitudes will be contagious.
• Learn to be self-confident. Be nice to everyone. That doesn’t mean letting other people taking advantage of you.
• Help people to get what they want and you will get what you want.
• Be a problem-solver, and you will build your credibility and reputation as someone who gets things done.

Wyess said. “A good attitude makes you feel better. Others see this and judge you by that. People want to work in an upbeat environment, and attitudes play an important role in shaping the work environment.”

You need to be self disciplined. “Discipline is a mark of a leader. “

Always do your best, use self-control, be self-disciplined and think before you act. All of the energy and self-belief in the world will not help you, if you cannot be self-disciplined in completing tasks.

• Schedule everything, schedule all of your tasks inside ACT. Without a schedule, everything ends up in a chaotic mess of random activity. But scheduling is not enough if you don’t work with your schedule.
• Organize your work. You can't be efficient unless you're organised. You don't have to be firm about it, but you must have some system for organising your work. Any system is better than no system, but whatever system you choose, it should organize your tasks in a doable program.
• - Learn to manage your time efficiently. Make your workday more effective to grow your business. Take control of your life. Use the best used techniques in the art of goal setting, planning, organizing, prioritizing and delegation.

It’s a good idea if you spend 15 minutes per day planning; controlling time robbers; organising paperwork; and delegating effectively.

Work on relationship building.

The relationship is very important because it enables your business to develop, and enables you to learn and benefit in many ways. You make time for other things in your life every day, and your work on your relationship should be no different. You need to reserve time each day to get your relationship recharged.

The right relationship is everything. If people don't like you, you're not going to be successful with them. Remember, people won't go along with you if they can't get along with you. If people don't like you or trust you or understand you, their not going to buy from you, no matter how much you know about business.

Building relationship online may be somewhat more difficult compared to meeting a customer in person in offline business, you can accomplish this if you think of your potential clients in each step you make when building your business.

Learn to do these things for your own peace of mind. Not only your business can benefit; but every aspect of your life can benefit when you take responsibility and take control.

How a Powerful Elevator Speech Can Generate Energetic Dialogues That Will Increase Your Recognition and Attract More Clients?

An elevator speech is a short verbal snippet that clearly and memorably introduces you.  It highlights your uniqueness and focuses on the benefits you provide.

 

Imagine ... you step onto an elevator and there is a lone occupant waiting to travel with you to another floor.  

 

You are together for less than a minute, but long enough to make polite conversation.  

 

What you don't know is this person is your ideal client. She has a problem you can solve.

 

She cuts through the awkward silence and says, "I see you're attending the networking event as well.  What do you do?"

 

Here it is!  Your chance to make an impression and secure a new client.

 

After a short stammer, you answer with, "I'm a coach and a copywriter. I hold a Masters in Business Administration and have been running my own home-based business for ten years."

 

With only a few seconds left, the elevator doors open.  She politely responds with a smile, then steps off the elevator, gone ... forever.

 

After you finish banging your head against the button panel, you realize you not only blew it, but you now have an indentation of the twenty-first floor button on your forehead.

 

What if instead you had answered with: 

 

"I help women entrepreneurs get more clients than they know what to do with and triple their profits in six months."

 

If she were your target client, do you think the second response would have sparked her interest and kept her on that elevator a little bit longer?

 

We all ask ourselves, "What's in it for me?" when engaged in any type of communication, whether written or spoken.  

 

You want to take something of value from a conversation, learn something new, create a certain feeling, or receive information that will help you solve a problem or meet a need.

 

If you spend the first 30 seconds labeling yourself and listing your credentials, or going into a technical spiel of your product or service, you will be met with nothing more than a big fat yawn, a glazed-over look or even worse, "Excuse me, I have to make a call" and a quick exit.

 

Take the time to develop a benefit-rich, passionate elevator speech that will engage your listeners to want to hear more.  

 

Write down a list of benefits your clients/customers receive from working with you or buying from you, and use those words and phrases in your benefit statement.

 

There's no need to label yourself. Labels don't provide the benefits the listener is looking for.

 

Once you have your elevator speech developed, practice it over and over until it's as natural as stating your name.  You'll be able to use it at networking events, in telephone conversation, when leaving voice mail messages, in any type of written communication, and yes, especially in the elevator!

 

So, ____________, what do you do?

How to Remove Clutter and Prevent Chaos in Our Home or in Our Office?

Clutter and chaos are the two things that can really cause stress and anxiety to just about anyone.  People who often lose their car keys, billing statements, or just about anything important often experience a frantic search inside every nook and cranny of their home. 

Constantly losing property and small yet important things can be such a time-waster.  Add to that the enormous frustration of not knowing the location of something important at the time when you need that something the most.

But there is a way out of the clutter and chaos.  Our lives shouldn't be too complicated or cluttered with a million and one things that we hardly need.   Most people have piles and piles of junk, even expensive ones, in their garage, den, bathroom, sleeping quarters, and just about every room in the house where they can stash their hoard of goodies.   

So how do we remove clutter and prevent chaos in the home or in the office?  

The obvious answer is to keep everything in its proper place. Keeping surfaces in the home and in the office is important.  We must be able to have a sense of order and constancy in how our lives and properties are arranged.  The same works for any big or small office.  

In practical terms, we must learn how to be good organizers. Having a filing cabinet where all important documents can be cataloged and safely kept is not just good for the office but for the home as well.  The cleaner and tidier our surroundings look, the less distraction there will be. Another way of un-cluttering and reducing the semblance of commotion in your home is by setting aside spaces where you can keep things based on its category or type.   For example, all kitchen utensils should be set aside in a cabinet in the kitchen.  All tools and supplies for the car should be in the garage. In short, never mix different things in one place or container.  

Here are more ways to find and take care of hidden clutter in your house:

1. Closets

Have appropriate storage space for towels, coats, sweaters, scarves, and shoes. Make used of empty shoe boxes you can used it for your knick knacks or paraphernalia like stationaries, sewing supplies or scrap-booking supplies. Get rid of items you no longer used. You can discard it or donate it to charitable institutions.

2. Basement/Attic

Get rid of your old old holiday decorations, tons of unused boxes, broken toys and electronics. 

3. Garages

You probably have some unused sports and camping gear stuck there so have those things put up for a garage sale.

4. Under the bed

There might be useless baseballs lurking under your bed and other things that shouldn't be there.

5. The cupboards in the kitchen

There might be broken cups and saucers, China and nonfunctional oven toasters and rusty waffle makers.

6. Filing cabinets/Desk drawers

Your desk is an important place where you do some productivity so if your desk is so disarray with papers, pens, pencils and what have you, certainly it affects how you think and make decisions. It gives you an unfocused mind if you are surrounded with clutter.

Stress Busting Solutions

4 Habits of a highly effective organize person:

1. Write Down

A small notepad or notebook will do. Write down the areas that you need to do the filing, cleaning, arranging, task to do or better yet used a calendar to program your de-cluttering activities.

2. A place for everything

Find appropriate places for each items like your house and car keys, important papers, your magazines, the children's toys. the books,dvd's and labeling them is a aid that will help you remember 

3. Clean as you go

Make it a habit so it won't pile up and takes your energy for the clean up sessions. Clean up the mess as soon as possible.

4. Simplify

Develop a system on which you can have routine and procedures for the whole family to work on. Deal with your mail, paperwork, bills to pay, laundry, errands like going to grocery or mall. Once you have develop a system be sure to maintain it in order to stay organized.

Benefits of mapping out all the aspects of your life

Success is more than economic gains, titles, and degrees. Planning for success is about mapping out all the aspects of your life. Similar to a map, you need to define the following details: origin, destination, vehicle, backpack, landmarks, and route.

Origin:  Who you are

A map has a starting point. Your origin is who you are right now. Most people when asked to introduce themselves would say, “Hi, I’m Jean and I am a 17-year old, senior highschool student.” It does not tell you about who Jean is; it only tells you her present preoccupation. To gain insights about yourself, you need to look closely at your beliefs, values, and principles aside from your economic, professional, cultural, and civil status. Moreover, you can also reflect on your experiences to give you insights on your good and not-so-good traits, skills, knowledge, strengths, and weaknesses. Upon introspection, Jean realized that she was highly motivated, generous, service-oriented, but impatient. Her inclination was in the biological-medical field. Furthermore, she believed that life must serve a purpose, and that wars were destructive to human dignity.

Destination: A vision of who you want to be

“Who do want to be?” this is your vision. Now it is important that you know yourself so that you would have a clearer idea of who you want to be; and the things you want to change whether they are attitudes, habits, or points of view. If you hardly know yourself, then your vision and targets for the future would also be unclear. Your destination should cover all the aspects of your being: the physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual. Continuing Jean’s story, after she defined her beliefs, values, and principles in life, she decided that she wanted to have a life dedicated in serving her fellowmen. 

Vehicle: Your Mission 

A vehicle is the means by which you can reach your destination. It can be analogized to your mission or vocation in life. To a great extent, your mission would depend on what you know about yourself. Bases on Jean’s self-assessment, she decided that she was suited to become a doctor, and that she wanted to become one. Her chosen vocation was a medical doctor. Describing her vision-mission fully: it was to live a life dedicated to serving her fellowmen as a doctor in conflict-areas.

Travel Bag: Your knowledge, skills, and attitude

Food, drinks, medicines, and other travelling necessities are contained in a bag. Applying this concept to your life map, you also bring with you certain knowledge, skills, and attitudes. These determine your competence and help you in attaining your vision. Given such, there is a need for you to assess what knowledge, skills, and attitudes you have at present and what you need to gain along the way. This two-fold assessment will give you insights on your landmarks or measures of success. Jean realized that she needed to gain professional knowledge and skills on medicine so that she could become a doctor. She knew that she was a bit impatient with people so she realized that this was something she wanted to change. 

Landmarks and Route: S.M.A.R.T. objectives

Landmarks confirm if you are on the right track while the route determines the travel time. Thus, in planning out your life, you also need to have landmarks and a route. These landmarks are your measures of success. These measures must be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time bound. Thus you cannot set two major landmarks such as earning a master’s degree and a doctorate degree within a period of three years, since the minimum number of years to complete a master’s degree is two years. Going back to Jean as an example, she identified the following landmarks in her life map: completing a bachelor’s degree in biology by the age of 21; completing medicine by the age of 27; earning her specialization in infectious diseases by the age of 30; getting deployed in local public hospitals of their town by the age of 32; and serving as doctor in war-torn areas by the age of 35.

Anticipate Turns, Detours, and Potholes

The purpose of your life map is to minimize hasty and spur-of-the-moment decisions that can make you lose your way. But oftentimes our plans are modified along the way due to some inconveniences, delays, and other situations beyond our control. Like in any path, there are turns, detours, and potholes thus; we must anticipate them and adjust accordingly. 

Seven-day course to manage stress

They say there's more than one way to skin a cat. The same goes when you start tearing your hair out with all the frustration, grief, anxiety, and yes, stress. It's a state of mental conditioning that is like taking that bitter pill down your throat, causing you to lose your sense of self, and worse your sanity. Just thinking about it can drive anyone off the edge.

And they say that the proactive ones are already living off the edge.

As one stressed-out person to another, I know how it feels, and believe me there are many variants when it comes to stress. Coping with life, and carrying the problems that may or may not belong to you can scratch away the little joy and happiness that you can carry once you head out that door. You can't blame them for being like that; they have their own reasons, so much like we have our reasons to allow stress to weigh us down. They say that stress is all in the mind, well, what's bugging you anyway?

There are several ways to manage stress, and eventually remove it out of your life one of these days. So I'll try to divide it into a seven-day course for you and I promise it's not going to be too taxing on the body, as well as on the mind.

1. Acknowledge stress is good

Make stress your friend! Based on the body's natural "fight or flight" response, that burst of energy will enhance your performance at the right moment. I've yet to see a top sportsman totally relaxed before a big competition. Use stress wisely to push yourself that little bit harder when it counts most.

2. Avoid stress sneezers

Stressed people sneeze stress germs indiscriminately and before you know it, you are infected too!

Protect yourself by recognizing stress in others and limiting your contact with them. Or if you've got the inclination, play stress doctor and teach them how to better manage themselves.

3. Learn from the best

When people around are losing their head, who keeps calm? What are they doing differently? What is their attitude? What language do they use? Are they trained and experienced? 

Figure it out from afar or sit them down for a chat. Learn from the best stress managers and copy what they do.

4. Practice socially acceptable heavy breathing

This is something I've learned from a gym instructor: You can trick your body into relaxing by using heavy breathing. Breathe in slowly for a count of 7 then breathe out for a count of 11. Repeat the 7-11 breathing until your heart rate slows down, your sweaty palms dry off and things start to feel more normal.

5. Give stressy thoughts the red light

It is possible to tangle yourself up in a stress knot all by yourself. "If this happens, then that might happen and then we're all up the creek!" Most of these things never happen, so why waste all that energy worrying needlessly?

Give stress thought-trains the red light and stop them in their tracks. Okay so it might go wrong - how likely is that, and what can you do to prevent it?

6. Know your trigger points and hot spots

Presentations, interviews, meetings, giving difficult feedback, tight deadlines…. My heart rate is cranking up just writing these down!

Make your own list of stress trigger points or hot spots. Be specific. Is it only presentations to a certain audience that get you worked up? Does one project cause more stress than another? Did you drink too much coffee?

Knowing what causes you stress is powerful information, as you can take action to make it less stressful. Do you need to learn some new skills? Do you need extra resources? Do you need to switch to decaf?

7. Burn the candle at one end

Lack of sleep, poor diet and no exercise wreaks havoc on our body and mind. Kind of obvious, but worth mentioning as it's often ignored as a stress management technique. Listen to your mother and don't burn the candle at both ends!

So having stress can be a total drag, but that should not hinder us to find the inner peace of mind that we have wanted for a long time. In any case, one could always go to the Bahamas and bask under the summer sun.

Seven ways to increase your self-confidence

I seem to lost count on how many times I've read and heard of celebrity marriages failing almost left and right. Not that I care (and personally I don't), it seems strange that we often see movie and TV stars as flawless people, living the fairytale life of riches and glamour. I suppose we all have to stop sticking our heads in the clouds and face reality.

There are many ways to lose your sense of self-esteem despite of how trivial it could get. But whatever happens, we should all try not to lose our own sense of self.

So what does it take to be a cut above the rest? Here are some of the things you can think and improve on that should be enough for a week.

1. Know your purpose 

Are you wandering through life with little direction - hoping that you'll find happiness, health and prosperity? Identify your life purpose or mission statement and you will have your own unique compass that will lead you to your truth north every time.

This may seem tricky at first when you see yourself to be in a tight or even dead end. But there's always that little loophole to turn things around and you can make a big difference to yourself.

2. Know your values 

What do you value most? Make a list of your top 5 values. Some examples are security, freedom, family, spiritual development, learning. As you set your goals for 2005 - check your goals against your values. If the goal doesn't align with any of your top five values - you may want to reconsider it or revise it.

The number shouldn't discourage you, instead it should motivate you to do more than you can ever dreamed of.

3. Know your needs 

Unmet needs can keep you from living authentically. Take care of yourself. Do you have a need to be acknowledged, to be right, to be in control, to be loved? There are so many people who lived their lives without realizing their dreams and most of them end up being stressed or even depressed for that matter. List your top four needs and get them met before it's too late!

4. Know your passions 

You know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life. Obstacles like doubt and lack of enthusiasm will only hinder you, but will not derail your chance to become the person you ought to be. Express yourself and honor the people who has inspired you to become the very person you wanted to be.

5. Live from the inside out 

Increase your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Commune with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. For most of us city slickers it's hard to even find the peace and quiet we want even in our own home. In my case I often just sit in a dimly lit room and play some classical music. There's sound, yes, but music does soothe the savage beast.

6. Honor your strengths 

What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? List three - if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help identify these. Are you imaginative, witty, good with your hands? Find ways to express your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you can share what you know to others.

7. Serve others 

When you live authentically, you may find that you develop an interconnected sense of being. When you are true to who you are, living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you give back in service what you came to share with others -your spirit - your essence. The rewards for sharing your gift with those close to you is indeed rewarding, much more if it were to be the eyes of a stranger who can appreciate what you have done to them.

Self-improvement is indeed one type of work that is worth it. It shouldn't always be within the confines of an office building, or maybe in the four corners of your own room. The difference lies within ourselves and how much we want to change for the better.

How to take the right steps with a positive attitude?

I'm sure you have a bright idea hidden somewhere in the back of your mind that you just can't wait to test out. Of course you're not the only one with the bright idea. So what motivates you to churn those creative, or even inspiring juices to its utmost flavor?

It's always best to set up a personal goal where you can accomplish the most in record time, maybe like mowing the lawn in an hour before the big game on TV. A correct and positive attitude in whatever you do will make things easier, and even enjoyable.

Here are some tips to make it through the week even if you're just sitting in your favorite couch. An idea takes time to form in your head and is always at work while you are busy sitting.

Having a bit of positive thinking can help you realize things that are never thought possible. Thinking big is indeed the American Way and that what made our country prosperous.

1. Take passionate action towards living your life by design. Talk is cheap. Action = deposits in the bank of a passionately authentic future. Without it, passion is void.

This is a perfect example where dreams are made of where you start by tinkering with your mind, then with your hands. And if the idea weakens, you can always go back to it later until you finish it.

2. Commit to yourself as well as those you love to create powerfully a life you can love. Instead of reacting, commit to creating from your heart and soul, out of love rather than fear. The American Dream will always be there, but a dream will still be a dream without motion. Be amazed as the transformation begins.

3. Recognize and embrace the thought that each moment is perfect regardless of its outcome. Every time you hit on something that may appear too extreme, why not give it a shot and see if it will work. You will be surprised to see of there are other ways to get the task done in time. If you are not pleased with the outcome, decide to use that moment to learn from and make the appropriate shift. 

4. Dwell completely in a place of gratitude. Learn to utilize what you have in your hands and make use of it in the most constructive way. Slipping into neediness will become less of a habit when you repeatedly shift towards gratitude, away from poverty consciousness.

5. Use a Passion Formula of Recognize/Reevaluate/Restore in place of the Shoulda/Woulda/Coulda whirlwind. The former is based in increased knowledge and abundance while the latter focuses on scarcity and lack. As you face people or tasks that may seem harder than scaling the summit of the Himalayas, allow yourself to realize that the task is just as important as giving out orders to your subordinates. You would rather be richly passionate!

6. Keep humor at the forefront of thought, laughing at and with yourself when possible. You may find yourself quite entertaining when you loosen up! I am yet to see a comedian ever go hungry even though his jokes are as 'old as great-grandma'. Life has so much to offer to allow you to mope around in self pity. Humor is very attractive, very passionate: life-giving. 

7. Believe that you are the architect of your destiny. No one can take your passionate future from you except for you! Create your life authentically. As long as there's still breath in your body, there is no end to how much you can accomplish in a lifetime. The concept of thinking big is all about enjoying your work, which would lead to celebrate a discovery that is born within your hands. Watch everything flow into place with perfect, passionate precision. 

It's interesting how people get wallowed up by something trivial as learning to use a computer, when nowadays that top computer companies are manufacturing software that even the kids can do it. I don't mean to be condescending, but that's the idea of not having any positive thinking in your life-you'll just end up as a dim bulb in a dark corner. So instead of subjecting yourself to what you will be doomed for, make your path by taking the first step with a positive attitude.