The Holidays are coming. Oh Joy! Oh Bliss! Oh Happiness!If in the midst of marital conflict, be it separation, divorce, infidelity, intense conflict or tension laden avoidance, you most likely will utter these words sarcastically. "Yeah, right. Can't wait!"
And you feel badly about your sarcasm and inability to enjoy, especially if the Holidays mean time with children, family and other loved ones.
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You dread pretending. You dread watching others enjoying themselves. You dread not "being there emotionally" for your children. You dread the fact you cannot enjoy the time. You fear you might "break." You dread the questions, the looks, others knowing or not knowing. What do you say? How do you respond.
You experience your world, your hopes and your dreams evaporating with the conflict, pain and uncertainty.
Unconsciously you utter, "God, help me get through this."
You feel sad. You feel broken. Your feelings are on the edge of your fingers and pound in your heart and gut. Your thoughts circle around the same points of pain, over and over again. You can't shake your catastrophic thoughts. You can't escape your pain. Tears, anger, sadness, rage and fear are only a breath away.
Yes, you remember past Holidays of joy and happiness. But this is not one.
In the midst of your pain and uncertainty, I want to offer some tools and concepts that will help you endure, cope and perhaps create moments of hope and semi-joy for you.
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